One of the greatest traditions of engagements and weddings have always been the bachelor and bachelorette parties. It’s the bride and groom’s last hurrah before they are officially wed. It’s also a great opportunity for their close friends to let loose and have a little fun. It’s a great way to forget about all the stress surrounding wedding planning and party.
However, sometimes things can get a little too fun. When an event is framed around the idea of this being the last time for the groom to really let loose and have some fun, it’s only a matter of time before things escalate and quickly get out of control. Unfortunately, there are plenty of instances where things got so out of control that it ended up costing the wedding altogether. Just take it from these people who recently shared stories about bachelor parties getting so crazy that it resulted in a canceled wedding.
35. Revenge Of The Ex
My wife’s friend called off her wedding a week before the ceremony. She lived several hundred miles away for school but came back to her hometown two weeks before the wedding to make sure everything was lined up and have her bachelorette party. In the course of her visit, she came across an old boyfriend (who was also engaged) and things “sparked up” again. They agreed they should each leave their fiancés and give their relationship another shot.
Turns out, he didn’t keep up his end of the bargain, and she is still single today.
34. Stranded And Satisfied
My dad and his friends took a buddy by canoe to an island to get inebriated the night before the wedding. He told them all he didn’t want to go through with it but couldn’t figure out how to get out of it. When he woke up in the morning, they had stranded him on the island, he missed the wedding, his buddies were branded as the jerks. Groom to be was relieved.
33. Inebriated Infidelity
I see a lot of bachelor and bachelorette parties in my line of work. I actually have a few of these memories.
The first that comes to mind was an interesting night where the bachelor party was happening at one bar and the bachelorette party was in the bar down the block. At the groom-to-be’s party, I get a call for help from the place. It’s a tame security call. Just a couple getting it on in a bathroom. The bar wanted them booted. I find out the dude is the groom to be and the girl is just some random chick. The chick goes off on her own and now I’m with the groom outside. He’s out of it and almost uncontrollable. I am trying to find him a way home safely. His bros were all terrible and kept the party going without him. After a while, the bride-to-be and her gals come walking down the street. A couple people around chime in and tell her why I am there dealing with him. She breaks down and calls the wedding off right there. He ended up going to detox himself that night.
32. Saved By Sobriety
I know a guy who seemingly had his life together: great career, lots of friends, beautiful fiancée.
He had a tendency to have a bit too much while partying, and a few weeks before the wedding he woke up in the hospital with serious injuries due to a non-automotive inebriated accident. The scariest part for him was that he didn’t remember a thing past leaving the party to walk home. Did he fall and hit his head? Did someone attack him and leave him for dead?
The thought of that scared him, and he decided to sober up. It also caused him to reflect on his life, and he realized his fiancée was manipulative, controlling, and he’d never be happy living with someone like that.
He has some long-term damage from the injury, but he’s still sober, spends much of his free time for a charitable cause, and dodged a serious bullet (a bad marriage) as a result of that horrible injury so he oddly came out ahead in the end.
31. Groom Gone Rouge
I bartend weddings fairly often and work directly with wedding planners all the time and meet with the bride and groom to be to talk things through and create a sense of familiarity. Each time I met the groom, he just kind of seemed out of it but I chalked it up to stress. The day of the wedding before the ceremony the wedding planner comes over and asks for a couple drinks for herself. She doesn’t drink on jobs so I ask her why. Apparently, things were about to get started but the groom was missing and wasn’t responding to phone calls so everyone is looking for him. Then, one of the bridesmaids disappears. Not long after, the brother of the groom gets a text from the groom saying he and the bridesmaid are in love and they’re running away to elope and that he’ll call him after. Everyone is getting antsy waiting for things to start and they’ve all been waiting like two hours. Now the wedding planner has to tell 150 people that the wedding is off and explain to the parents what happened while the wedding party is consoling the bride.
30. Once A Cheater
One of the groomsmen got into a huge fight with the groom because he brought up the fact that his future wife cheated on him a few years prior. This is true, but it was water under the bridge by that point. Anyway, the groom got really angry and said, “Don’t bother coming,” then started reconsidering the marriage.
Anyway, the next day they had sobered up and apologized to each other so the wedding went ahead. She did, in fact, cheat on him in the end—several years later though.
29. Mutual Destruction
Both parties happened the same night, in the same location, as they didn’t trust each other. Bachelorette and her maid of honor snuck off mid-party to go upstairs to a room they booked to get intimate with some random people.
Don’t worry—the bachelor was scum too. At some point during their relationship, he poked holes in his rubber so she’d get pregnant and stay.
28. Marrying The Fiancée
My wife was engaged when I met her. Her wedding was in a month. She told her friends about me during her bridal shower. Three years later she married me instead.
27. What Happens In Vegas
Bachelor party went on a cruise and never left the ship. They ate too much and had a lot to drink. Meanwhile, the bachelorette party went to Vegas. The bride got intimate one of the workers at the party and two of the bridesmaids hooked up with old boyfriends who just happened to be there. The wedding never happened. But the bridesmaids are now both engaged to their respective boyfriends (the ones that they cheated on) and planning a double bachelorette party in—you guessed it—Las Vegas.
26. Hole In One
Last year, I was a groomsman in a wedding with a guy I have known for close to 15 years as a good friend. We did the typical “get a nice dinner, then hit the town hard” kind of party. Ended up at a Top Golf, loaded out of our minds. We were having a lot of fun when we noticed that the groom was gone for longer than it takes to pee… so we went looking.
We couldn’t find him in the bathroom. The staff said he went outside to “clear his head and have a cigarette”. We went out and didn’t see him in the parking lot. We started going into panic mode because he was super sloppy when inebriated and gets crazy. We ended up calling the bride-to-be. She got a crying phone call from him and he said he was meeting another friend, then he hung up on her and threw his phone.
Fast forward two hours and the bride’s brother finds him…with another dude. Apparently, he was holding back that he was actually attracted to men and that he had a secret boyfriend (plot twist: was the bride’s brother’s best friend). So the wedding was called off and he just up and moved out of the state.
He is now a dancer at a few clubs and is currently engaged to marry his ex-bride’s brother’s best friend. Happy for the dude.
25. Brotherly Behavior
The bride’s brother (having attended the husband’s bachelor party) twisted and exaggerated every detail of the bachelor party to make the husband look bad to the bride’s parents in an attempt to deflect attention away from his substance addiction.
24. Talk About Ghosted
A family friend had been with this guy for a few years; their relationship sounded absolutely perfect. Attractive guy, good job, caring and understanding and you could tell they were one of those “forever” couples. A week before the wedding he just disappeared. She came home that day and everything of his was gone; it was like he was never there.
23. Fighting For Love
I was working as a bouncer one time and the bride and groom decided it would be a good idea to throw their bachelor/bachelorette parties on the same night in the same town. I guess they must have been from out of town. Anyway, it’s the night before the wedding, which is not a good night to get messy inebriated. Both parties wind up at my bar at the same time. The groom catches the bride having drinks off a dude and getting very cozy, so he gets jealous and grabs the bride. They get into it and he gets rough with her. So I grabbed the dude to drag him out and he and his friends decided it would be extra fun to try and fight a bunch of angry sober bouncers. We beat up him and his friends while some of the other staff kept the girls held back. Cops showed up and he got hauled off; none of us wanted to press charges. I’m 99.99% positive the wedding didn’t go through.
22. Court Instead Of Ceremony
The inebriated bachelor got in bar fight at the bachelor party and got arrested. They had to cancel the wedding for court day or prison, I don’t remember specifically.
21. The Devil’s Vacation
The groom-to-be was cheating with his best friend’s wife. We all celebrated their wedding too, a year before. It all came crashing down when the four of them went on a vacation together. It was a sad time for my friend.
20. A Small Problem
A woman gave birth nine months after her wedding; the baby had dwarfism. She admitted to sleeping with the dwarf that was at her bachelorette party.
19. Dog Food
My best mate and I went on my stag weekend to the Quantocks. It was okay—we played chess, went canalling, and then went into a pub and had a few beverages each. I wasn’t really down with this but my mate kept pushing me to stay up late. It was all going fine until we got talking to these two girls. Long story short: my mate ended up eating one of the girl’s dogs.
The disaster of that stag was a precursor to a terrible wedding we all knew was going to happen. I jilted my fiancée. Well, technically, we went through with the ceremony and got divorced later, but that’s details.
18. More Than Friends
I traveled with my wife (then girlfriend) to a wedding she was in. At the rehearsal, I told my wife there was something going on between the bride and the maid of honor. She laughed. Two weeks after the wedding, the bride’s Facebook went dark. The bride and maid of honor are now living together in another state. I still talk about how I called it within an hour of meeting them. Poor groom… super nice dude.
17. Pre-Ceremony Chaos
Wedding Photographer here: This happened with a couple back in 2015.
The night before the wedding, all the bridal party got together at the hotel, partied, and partied a lot. I show up the next morning at eight a.m. after a two-hour drive, only to be told by the hotel receptionist that there was not going to be a wedding.
Apparently, a large fight broke out between the groomsmen and bridesmaids. Money to pay the vendors was stolen. The ceremony was supposed to be at eleven a.m. that day. Nobody called and told me. I called the bride’s mother and she stated that she was off to pick up the bride and groom, sit them down, and still try to have a wedding.
Fast forward a couple hours, the groom showed up inebriated out of his mind around ten a.m. The guests were already showing up, the bride finally showed around noon, and there was a ceremony at one p.m. Yes, they still got married. The groom was out of it the whole day, the couple argued a ton, and the groom also got very cozy with his own mother during the mother-son dance.
Needless to say… it was an eventful day.
16. A Simple Explanation
A friend of mine in college had been engaged to her high school sweetheart. The plan was for them to get married after she graduated. She was one of those that dreamed of her wedding since she was a little girl. She had been planning forever! A week before the wedding, he leaves without a trace, except a note saying, “I can’t marry you.” She was devastated. We still had a party with the wedding cake, food, etc. because it had all been paid for already. Saddest party ever. She ran into him a few years later at an 80s dance club wearing a mesh shirt and a taxi hat with a dude.
15. A Prior Engagement
On the day of the wedding, the groom’s family is patiently waiting. The bride’s family hasn’t shown. The bride’s mother finally arrives and says that the bride has discovered the groom has a second fiancée in another state and the wedding is off. Rehearsal dinner photos went up on Facebook and someone tagged the wrong girl assuming that was his fiancée he had been talking about. Except it was the other fiancée. So the bride sees her tagged as someone else and messages from out-of-town friends like, “Can’t wait to meet her! Why wasn’t I invited?”
14. All Paid Vacation
A family friend called off their destination wedding about one week before the date. Her whole side of the family already had the venue paid for, food and beverages booked, and their tickets all bought so they still flew there and just had a big party. Her dad hated the guy she was marrying, and no one else liked him either. So they were a lot happier at this party than they would have been at a wedding.
13. Playing Doubles
Well, it wasn’t a bachelor party but a couple of months before the wedding it was discovered she was leading a double life.
Her frequent work trips to the UK were actually just her driving a few hours away, where she was living with another guy. She was telling him the same story but in reverse.
The wedding was called off. Much money was lost. Not sure what her plan was…
12. Abort Mission
A military idiot in my old unit had a bachelor party at a (very nasty) club and slept with a worker in front of his buddies in the private room. Of course, the word about this spread like wildfire in the unit and was confirmed by the dozens of guys that were in the room when it happened. Military spouses gossip and talk and soon the wife found out and they were divorced less than a month later.
I’m still friends with the groom on Facebook and he is still an idiot.
11. Spilling Secrets
I was just at a bachelorette party where one of the bridesmaids got wasted and was happily telling the bride, “Oh, I’m so glad you and Fiancé worked things out after he cheated. I know he didn’t mean it, you two are perfect together.”
The bride didn’t know… so she told the bridesmaid that her (bridesmaid’s) husband cheated as well. Later at the wedding, the bridesmaid’s husband shows up to tell everyone that the bride also cheated.
10. Perfect Timing
It was a month before my scheduled wedding and I was getting everything ready. In the meantime, all of my close friends in my wedding party came out to celebrate my bachelor party with some partying, floating, skydiving, etc. Well, the night before they get there, my now-ex-fiancée who I had been with for eight years says that she no longer wants to go through with the wedding. So I spend the morning my friends are there calling around to friends, family, and reservation services explaining the news (completely blindsided). I come to find out she had cheated on me and had been feeling that way “for a while” but didn’t share this with me until the day of my birthday… the day before my friends visit for a few days.
Needless to say, the plans changed a bit and it turned into my Birthday party instead. It was pretty awful but I ended up having a good time with best friends.
Much happier now with my soulmate and so thankful that things worked out the way they did!
9. Well Done
My close friend from high school thought it would be a good idea to marry this “so handsome and mature” guy about 15 years older than her after only knowing him for six months. I didn’t have a problem with the age as I prefer older men myself, but with that being said, I know some of those men only seek girls our age because of their immaturity. It was the Wednesday before their bachelorette/bachelor parties and the three of us were having dinner at one of our favorite spots. I guess his order of well-done steak came out improperly cooked and he just lost it on the waiter, demanded the chef come out and then basically berated him and called him incompetent and unable to do his job (in a Michelin-star-awarded kitchen!). I look up at my good friend and she is just borderline tears, I’m guessing going over every little remark he’s made in the past, and then imagining a future with him. She called it off after the bachelor party.
8. Truly Tragic Ending
I had a cousin in the military that was about to marry his high school sweetheart. The day before he was to get back from deployment, she had a “bachelorette party” (just her and three or four of her long-time friends) and was heading home when an inebriated driver crossed the center line and hit her head on. She was killed instantly. The inebriated driver was barely injured. They were supposed to get married the next day, like from the airport to the courthouse. Instead, he was met by both families to give him the bad news.
I went to Vegas for a bachelor party and his mother decided to tag along (she was financing it all anyway). She convinced the groom to get intimate with an adult film star. We later found out she paid to exclusively come be with him so she could guilt him into telling the bride thus stopping the wedding. It worked.
6. Addressing The Issue
At the bachelorette party, all of the soon-to-be wife’s friends realized that none of them had even bought or planned dresses for the wedding yet.
This was after a year-long engagement. The party was two months before the wedding.
5. Shameful Celebration
The bride came to the bar asking if we had seen the groom as he was needed for some photographs or cutting the cake. None of the staff had seen him so she went outside, only to return a few minutes later in tears. She had caught the groom getting with the maid of honor… her sister. An all-out family war commenced with extra guests just sitting there enjoying the buffet. The worst part was hearing the bride cry, “I can’t believe this happened again.” I really felt bad for her because she was lovely.
4. Going The Distance
Three years ago, I was in the wedding party, bought the stupid bridesmaid’s dress (paid in full, will never wear it), shower gift, bachelorette party in Atlantic City, etc. Can you feel my rage?
Jerk fiancé goes to the bachelor party in Cancun. Comes back seeming… off. A few days go by and he tells her he’s not ready to get married and he has gone ahead and canceled all vendors for the said wedding, needs a week to think things over. Then falls off the grid. In her panic, she pulled his credit card records and finds a plane ticket to London the day prior.
He met a girl in Cancun, canceled the wedding, then went to London to visit her the very next week. My poor friend, I thought. Wrong…
In response she started messing with a married man, the wife found out, there was a huge fallout, and it was a public embarrassment (married man was her boss in a notoriously nepotistic school district).
In the end, the original jerk and my friend got back together, got married about two months ago, and she is now pregnant. The moral of this story is that people are crazy and can only hope to find someone as crazy as them to live with.
3. Storm’s Brewing
My friend’s cousin was getting married, and she went to his fiancée’s bachelorette party. They went to one of those “Thunder Down Under” type of shows. Long story short, the girl getting married got with one of the performers they hired. The wedding was canceled.
2. Dodged A Bullet
I was two weeks away from getting married. My ex went off with her friends for the bachelorette party. At two in the morning, I got an email from the maid of honor. It was supposed to be sent to her friends and my name was accidentally selected. The email contained a video of my bride-to-be engaging in promiscuous acts with a performer. The next day, we were supposed to finalize some plans. When the bride-to-be and maid of honor showed up to pick me up, I just pointed at the computer. My bride went pale; then spent the next eight hours attempting to explain what was going on. Then, it turned into a horrible mistake. I think at some point I blacked out because I had started having beverages right after seeing the video and just didn’t stop.
1. Sweeping It Under The Rug
At a work retreat a few years back, the bride-to-be brought her fiancé along with her since they were only two weeks out from the wedding and had some planning to do. The nights after she, along with all of her co-workers, catch him getting with another guy at the bar. It was never talked about and they got married two weeks later. I still can’t imagine seeing your future husband cheat on you (and possibly be into the opposite gender?) and still go through with it. Apparently now he still does this, and she just pretends it isn’t happening. She was only 22.