The holidays mean prime time with family and friends, and after the pandemic kept us shut in our houses, flocking back to a loved one’s humble abode became everyone’s top priority. But even with COVID several years behind us, travellers were quickly re-exposed to another kind of horror: Christmas travel.
If you’ve never flown during the holidays, first of all, don’t do it, but second of all, you’ve thankfully been sheltered from its issues. Delayed flights, cancellations, and someone undoubtedly coughing in your face are just a few of the problems that plague the season—and yet, our loved ones still demand face-to-face time. As much as we love spending time with family, we also think it’s time to discuss the elephant in the room: the inevitable pressure of holiday travel, and just how bad it is for your health.
Constant Stress Ruins Christmas Cheer
It’s hard to feel holly and jolly when you’ve run yourself ragged. You not only have to bear the burden of shopping (and spending all that money), but you then need to schlep those gifts around to everyone on your list. Next thing you know, those two weeks booked off from work become a travel-fuelled nightmare.
It’s never fun when you sit around the table with your in-laws, either—especially when you have such contrasting world views. There’s no way around it in this climate, and even the anticipation of a brawl can be enough to turn your stomach. But, “family’s family” and it’s just one more cross you’re guilted to bear.
Let’s not forget the money aspect, either! Christmas was all fun and games as a kid, but in adulthood, it’s just one more bah-humbug that yucks your yum. Toss in the expectation of visiting everyone on your nice list, and you’ll find yourself burned out sooner rather than later.
Is There Any Way to Rekindle the Spirit?
So, what’s a person to do when they’re up against all these challenges? Luckily, there are a few ways to protect your mental and physical health this year. Remember: as tough as it may be to have that conversation, your family should keep your well-being in mind, too.
First and foremost, it’s important to set boundaries. If you don’t want to travel during the holidays—and who could blame you?—then you can easily schedule another date when it’s less hectic at the airport. Even something as simple as early December travel can remove half the issues commonly found later in the month.
Just as importantly, try to remember that there’s no such thing as the “perfect” Christmas. It’s okay if you can’t scratch everyone off your list. It’s also okay if the weather prevents you from taking a trip halfway across town. If you can’t see someone before the holidays, you can always pencil them into your schedule once the dust settles.
When Winter Blues Come Calling
Seasonal affective disorder is no joke, and plenty of research suggests just how detrimental it is to your mental health. When the sun dips past the horizon, thousands of people suffer from headaches, depression, and low-energy moods. As you can imagine, that doesn’t help when it’s time to visit family.
One of the most important things you can do is to keep realistic expectations. Yes, difficult family members will probably be in attendance at dinner. And yes, the roads will be a mess. But knowing that ahead of time allows you to make some much-needed adjustments; never forget that you can leave a gathering early, or tack on an extra half hour to the journey to sidestep any traffic.
You’re also under no obligation to go above and beyond. Trust us, real loved ones appreciate your company more than your money, and they aren’t expecting anything too lavish. Know your limits and spend within them; the last thing you want is to see an empty bank account when you’re already feeling squeezed.
The Ultimate Trick? Don’t Wear Yourself Too Thin
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It’s easier said than done, but don’t run around too much this year. Make a list of who you’d like to shop for. Make a list of who you’d like to visit (and who you have to visit). When you lay everything out in front of you, it’s a little easier to curb expectations.
Don’t underestimate the power of communication! If you can’t see someone in person, there’s no shame in scheduling a video call or sending a good old-fashioned Christmas card in the mail. You still get to speak with them, but from the comfort of your own home.
At the end of the day, it’s time to do away with all those heaving expectations! Christmas is a time to spend with loved ones, but it’s also the perfect time to wear yourself into the ground. Don’t over-commit, don’t spend over budget, and definitely don’t forget to take care of yourself.
